Young couples are splitting bills - and they're cool with it

RELATIONSHIPS have changed a lot over the years, and Gen Z views things differently from past generations.

In the past, men were traditionally seen as the primary providers, but today, many couples are challenging that norm. Young couples, in particular, are embracing a more balanced approach, with many opting to split bills rather than sticking to the idea that men should always pay.

For some, splitting bills is about independence and making sure both partners are involved in the relationship equally. Others see it as a way to reduce financial pressure and avoid relying too much on one person.

Sinar Daily looks into this growing trend and speaks to couples who believe that sharing expenses leads to a stronger and more balanced relationship.

For Haikal Iskandar, 27, a private sector worker, the idea of sharing expenses in a relationship especially before marriage is something worth encouraging.

However, he doesn’t believe it has to be a strict 50-50 split. Instead, he sees it as a flexible arrangement where both partners contribute in different ways, such as one covering petrol while the other pays for meals.

"In today’s economy, financial struggles are a reality for everyone. Couples not only have to save for marriage but also maintain their dating routines," he said.

Haikal also noted that traditionally, men have been expected to shoulder the financial burden. However, he believes that offering support and sharing responsibilities can ease the pressure.

“From what I’ve heard from friends and considering common gender norms worldwide, the financial burden often falls on the man. Lending a hand and sharing responsibilities can help lighten the load.

“After marriage, the husband typically assumes the primary financial role, so being considerate and supportive of our partners during this phase seems like a fair and loving approach,” he said.

He also pointed out that rising living costs and financial stability are major concerns when it comes to marriage. In his view, as long as a couple has a strong foundation and meets the basics, they can work on the rest together after marriage.

“It’s crucial for both partners to understand this dynamic and support each other in navigating these challenges together,” he added.

Meanwhile, Naufal Yusri, 21, a student, said he prefers splitting costs as it feels fair and takes the pressure off one person.

“I don’t mind taking turns paying either. Like, I’ll pay for dinner, and my partner can get drinks or something. To me, it’s less about the money and more about the gesture. If someone never offers to split or contribute, though, that might be a red flag.

“It’s 2025, you know? Equality is sexy,” he said.

When asked if he would date someone struggling financially but with big dreams, Naufal said financial stability is important, but it’s not everything. What matters more is whether the person is responsible and actively working toward their goals.

"It depends on the person. If they’re passionate, hardworking, and have a clear vision for their future, I’d definitely consider it. Are we a team when it comes to money? I don’t need them to be rich, but I do want to feel like we’re on solid ground together,” he added.

Sofea Imran, 21, another student, shared that while she values financial security, she also believes relationships should involve both emotional and financial support.

“I think splitting bills is acceptable, considering how expensive things are today. From my experience in dating, my partner usually pays, but I also chip in sometimes because I want to,” she said.

She also mentioned that she wouldn’t mind dating someone facing financial struggles, as long as they put in the effort to achieve their goals.

“Big dreams are nothing without effort,” she added.

Maisarah Mohd Ghani, 25, a private sector worker, also supports splitting bills.

“Since neither of us is financially stable yet and everything is expensive, we just do what makes sense.

“We even have a ‘savings date’ system where we pool money into a shared savings fund and use it for our outings. It keeps things simple and fair,” she said.

She believes financial struggles don’t define a person, but how they handle their situation and relationship does.

“At the end of the day, it’s about passion, understanding, support, and love. If you have those, you can get through anything together,” she added.

While this practice does not represent every couple in Malaysia, those who embrace it argue that it removes financial pressure from one party and promotes a healthier, more balanced relationship dynamic.

The traditional belief that men must be the sole providers has shifted to a more balanced mindset where both partners contribute. Ultimately, how finances are handled in a relationship depends on the couple.

Whether they split bills equally, take turns, or follow a different arrangement, what matters most is mutual understanding, respect, and support. So, where do you stand in this conversation?