Giving duit raya? Six key etiquette to observe for spiritual benefit
Beyond the colourful envelopes and cheerful exchanges lay something more meaningful.
SHAH ALAM - Giving ‘duit raya’ had long been a beloved part of celebrating Hari Raya Aidilfitri in Malaysia. But beyond the colourful envelopes and cheerful exchanges lay something more meaningful.
It was an act of ‘sadaqah’ (charity) that, when done with the right intention and manners, became an act of worship.
According to the Negeri Sembilan Mufti Department, ‘duit raya’ was not merely a festive practice.
In a recent Facebook post, the department clarified that giving money during Syawal, especially to children, parents and relatives, could carry spiritual reward.
To ensure this tradition remains meaningful, both givers and receivers should observe certain principles.
These six key guidelines preserve the beauty and purpose behind giving duit raya:
Give Freely, Without Solicitation: A fundamental aspect of this tradition is that the giving should be voluntary. Never request or demand ‘duit raya’. It should stem from genuine generosity, not obligation or expectation. Asking for money, especially from elders or guests, is discouraged in Islam as it contradicts the values of humility and sincerity.
Appreciate Without Comparison: It is common for recipients, young and old, to note what they receive. However, comparing amounts can breed jealousy, disappointment, or arrogance. Flaunting one's ‘duit raya’ goes against the spirit of Aidilfitri. Each gift, regardless of its value (be it RM1 or RM100), should be appreciated individually.
Intention Above All: The motivation behind the act of giving is paramount. When offering ‘duit raya’, do so with the aim of spreading joy, strengthening relationships and seeking Allah’s blessings, not for recognition or social standing. Even a small sum carries significant weight when given sincerely, as Islam highly values acts performed with pure intentions and kindness.
Express Gratitude Respectfully: A sincere “thank you” accompanied by a smile is a simple yet crucial demonstration of good manners. Opening the envelope in front of the giver is considered impolite, as it might suggest dissatisfaction or greed. Showing gratitude, even for modest gifts, reflects good character and is strongly encouraged in Islamic teachings.
Recognise Varying Capacities: Givers come from diverse financial backgrounds. Therefore, expecting or comparing the value of ‘duit raya’ among family members or guests is unfair. The department stresses that sincerity outweighs the monetary value of the gift. The intention behind the giving is what truly matters, not the amount enclosed.
Strengthen Bonds Through Giving: The true essence of ‘duit raya’ lies in its ability to foster closer relationships through the act of giving itself, not merely the exchange of money. When offered with love and respect, it transforms into a form of ‘sadaqah’ that strengthens family ties and enhances spiritual awareness during Syawal.
While the tradition of ‘duit raya’ brings much joy, its significance deepens when we remember its spiritual roots. By upholding sincerity, modesty and good manners, we ensure that the giving and receiving of ‘duit raya’ transcends a simple festive custom, becoming a meaningful act of worship that brings blessings to both the giver and the receiver.
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